start from ego- state
a state of total ignorance of the WHY of life
complete absorpion in MAYA
next level
some random thoughts
about life and afterlife
born of fear insecurity
allegiance to the gods
dealings by way of homams abishekams alankarams
next level
adipatu adipatu
vazkayil nazuungi
uravukalai veruthu
nambikkai atru
mayayai vittu vilagivilagi
AANAL
ego
dense-when in wealth in power social support fame honour
thin-bereft of above but SELF-respect intact
gets refined futher and further
till a wisp remains...
to continue
in the next birth
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ego stroking
from newborn requiring warmth and love
children requiring approval ,fulfil material needs
youth requiring ego stroking from peers/opp gender
employed-requiring approval from higher ups/colleagues
married-spousal stroking-children - wel behaved intelligent
old age-from children d-s-inlaw(spouse reaction doesnt matter after a certaain years of marriage)
lovers-mutual ego stroking
pets-owners approval-affection(many singleegos adopt pets for this reason)
plants-respond to loving care by growers
social media users- from other users-group members-likes-
unemployed-parents-peers-siblings
singles-other singles-whatsapp
self stroking-life circumstances-karmic inheritance(inflated ego)
govt-votes
public-recognition by govt/parties-freebies
tv users-reality shows-children -singers-talent shows
why required?
ego is lonely-having been (un)knowingly seperated from its root source
ego this is full of minute holes-sieve-
each time it is stroked -one hole is filled up-provides a small measure of happiness
an individual can get ego strokes from a variety of sources-
spouse-parents-siblings-gr-parents/children-peers-opp gender-employees/employers
govt-pets-plants
what happens when there is no stroking
ego becomes miserable-depressed -low self-worth -disinterested in stroking other egos-anger
loneliness occurs(physical mental)
after a certain stage-the stroking begins to pall-self stroking also
realisation dawns-need for diminishing ego
even people with low self worth -beggars-physically challenged-sick-poor-ugly-low in caste hierarchy...
expect and like acertain amt of ego stroke-witness beggar couple-(single beggars -adopt pets)
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lonely people-lack of resources for stroking -inadequate resources(incompatible spouse/employer/parents)
easy for two lonely people to sync -mutual stroking-alternate resources-careers/pets/books/religion/tv
stroking can be false -to achieve selfish ends or real-to improve self-worth
another category-professional counselling -not real but end is for self-improvement of patients.
reverse ego stroking-reducing ones sense of self-worth-hurting the ego-
results in anger/depression-rare cases provides impetus to improve self worth and to minimise ego-hurting weaknesses.
"successful" marriages mainly dependant upon stroking-better if mutual.
problem is many resort to selfish stroking-which when realised leads to trouble.
giving children to male spouse/in laws-stroking both ways
sometimes ego is x unable to accept stoking (false or real) from another
-u may not like the person-ambivalence
-u may entertaing strong adverse feelings
-generation gap/other social/cultural gaps/gender gaps