ego in relationships
main-to prevent engulfment -unconditional love/selfless
once ego dissolves-divine self is seen
1.keep weak egos at lower levels -
and be below strong egos
2.some cases of same level egos-
sharing of ego-space-attraction/affection/care/sympathy/empathy/slefish-love
prevent engul thro defense mechanisms[strong egos]
3.same level weak egos -surrender -subservience
conrol of weak egos by domination/codependancy/emo blackmail/
4.strong egos-difficulty to share-marital problems/remain single
5.child mother-happiness as newborn no seperate ego -c-as ego develops conflicts result in dissatisfaction/detachment
[teen egos]-still due to birthing -mother more attched
not for father who maintains his seperate ego at all times
6.marriage-conditional sharing and control of another ego
sharing of experiences/physical and emotional closeness/
sometimes]sympathy/care-brings egos closer/no merger
as nature of ego will not allow-rare cases of long term marriages